You Can Only Break Your Own Heart

   You can only truly hate someone you truly love.
   When you hate someone it's because you're not getting what you want.
   You think that by hating another you are setting up a protective barrier against the further withdrawal of love, but it isn't so.
   By hating another you are trying to protect yourself from hurt.
   Ask yourself when you are hating another, who is feeling that hate?
   Hating does not keep you from hurting.
   Loving keeps you from hurting.
   When you feel love for another, who feels the love?
   Hate causes the pathways of pain to become deeper.
   Hate isn't real.
   Hate is camouflage designed to give you the energy to recover from a broken heart.
   You are breaking your own heart by not allowing yourself to love.
   The secret to happiness is to let yourself love no matter what.
   You CAN love without being a victim of another's manipulations.
   You CAN love and NOT invite another back into your physical life.
   Loving another serves YOU.
   Love is a decision you make.
   You CAN love unconditionally and still have physical boundaries.
   You might as well give yourself permission to experience love, because love is underneath the hatred anyway.